We Don't Control The Timeline

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Also—tried something new this week. Had a few big breakthroughs after I wrote the letter, so I added a raw, unfiltered follow-up at the end. Felt too important not to share.

Back to Discipline

4/14/25 – Writing this early again—trying to get back into discipline mode. Early in the week, early in the day, while I’m at my freshest… most fresh? English is hard.

The weather here in Texas has been unreal. Mid-80s, sunny, low humidity. I’ve already got a solid tan going after a full Saturday of laying in the sun and helping my mother-in-law with a cactus garden project. Not gonna lie—I hate that kind of work. But I’m grateful I can help, and it's going to look great.

Lately, plants have been doing something for me. Our veggie garden’s thriving (minus the cucumbers—too much nitrogen, apparently), and the flowers on our deck just make me happy.

Who the hell am I?
Wasn’t long ago my weekends were about getting bombed, not admiring petunias. Life happens fast.

Boomer Energy Incoming

Hit a milestone while fishing Friday. The pond dam sits next to a road in our neighborhood. Some jackass in a white Navigator came flying by and I instinctively yelled, “SLOW DOWN!”

Yeah… I’m that guy now. Real boomer energy. And I felt it.

When Scarcity Sneaks In

Anyway, onto the real point.

I’ve been riding high—living in alignment, taking action, sharing wins, embracing abundance. But life doesn’t stay in that gear forever.

This week, the scarcity mindset came back and sucker-punched me in the mouth.

Here’s how I define it:
Scarcity mindset is the belief that there’s never enough—money, time, opportunity.
It’s fear dressed up as logic. You grip tighter, play smaller, and stop trusting that more will come. It’s not strategy. It’s survival.

That mindset has haunted me most of my adult life—even when I had money. I made six figures. Saved aggressively. Lived well below my means.

But I rarely let myself spend on life. Experiences. Joy.
That stability came at a cost—and stole time I’ll never get back.

Choosing Abundance

That’s why “abundance” is one of my values.

Because scarcity doesn’t lead to freedom. It leads to fear.

So what’s the alternative?

Abundance mindset is the belief that there’s always more—more opportunity, more money, more growth.
It’s not blind optimism. It’s trust. Trust that taking action creates momentum. You give freely, take risks, and play the long game.

Simple in theory. Brutal in practice.

Even though I’ve been doing all the right things—traveling, investing, taking risks—lately, spending money hurts.

And that’s where the problem is.

Vibrations and Beliefs

When you grip money too tight, you give off scarcity. That’s the energy you project.
And the universe? It mirrors back whatever you send out.

So if I’m saying abundance, but subconsciously screaming fear? Guess what I’m really attracting?

I can journal about abundance all day. But if I don’t believe it—deep in my soul—I’m out of alignment. And the universe knows.

Faith and Action

Right in the middle of this spiral, I remembered something my friend Andrew Powers pointed out from a post I wrote:

“We don’t control the timeline—only our actions.”

That hit.

God controls the timeline.
I control my effort. My discipline. My belief.

And when I look at my recent actions?

• I’m pouring into the Gobundance community and leading with service.
  

• I’m thinking like a CEO when it comes to Emerge.
  

• I’m studying sales, marketing, and land flipping with intent and follow-through.
  

• I’m showing up. Daily.
  

So yeah—my actions are aligned.
Now I have to surrender. Fully.
With belief—not just in my words, but in my subconscious, in my spirit.

Back to the Work

So how do I do that?

By doing what already works.

• My morning routine
  

• Reading and prayer
  

• Conversations with my wife and my inner circle
  

• And reminding myself: if top-tier entrepreneurs trust me with their brands… maybe I should trust myself, too.
  

Keep Going

If you’re taking the right actions, stay the course.
Keep learning. Keep showing up. Keep growing.
God has a plan—but He rewards those who put in the work.

And remember…

We don’t control the timeline. Only our actions.

[BONUS] 4/18/25 – Real-Time Breakthrough

Like I said, I’ve never done this before—adding on after publishing. But the breakthroughs this week were too powerful not to share.

After writing the above, I spiraled harder. And I did something I tell people not to do—I blamed external stuff instead of looking inward.

Here’s the backstory:

Last summer, leads for Gobundance Emerge slowed down. Makes sense—summer’s busy, kids are out of school, travel picks up. But that’s when my scarcity mindset really took over.

It pushed me into full-blown salesman mode.
Tactics. Strategies. How to close the deal.

And since then? I’ve been struggling to get people over the threshold and into Emerge.

So my thought this week was, “It can’t be me. I’m putting in more effort than ever. Must be the price!”

So I brainstormed big changes—new offers, new programs. Even partnered with our CEO to launch a new 6-month membership option.

With this new ammo, I started firing off texts, audio messages, emails to qualified leads.

Crickets.

One “maybe.” One “later this year.” A few polite no’s.

That’s when it hit me—it wasn’t the price.
They didn’t see the value.

Which meant… it was ME.

But how?? I’ve never worked harder!

And then, boom. My friend Dave Stargen said something during a book club call:

“You’ve gotta be a storyteller. Tell your story. Tell the stories of others.”

That was it.

I had stopped sharing how this group changed my life.
I let the sales tactics creep in.
And with it? The stench of desperation. The vibration of need over want.

So I told myself:
Just go back to being a member.
Not a salesman. Not a brand ambassador.
Just Kyle Wakeman—three-year Gobundance member. A man who is lightyears ahead of the guy who joined in 2022.

The next day: two info calls. Two new members.

There’s so much good that came from this.

The new ideas? Still solid. Maybe we roll out a few. But the foundation is already strong.

This was a wake-up call.

A reminder of the power of ownership.
The problem wasn’t out there. It was in me.
And when I fixed it? Immediate results.

It was a reminder of community.
The amazing people around me who challenge, support, and reflect back truth.

And it helped me reset my abundance mindset.

PSS I supposed…Kallie said something during our talk the other day that really stood out. “Every time you feel like you’ve hit a wall, something incredible happens.” As always, she was right. Can’t wait to share more with you all next week.

As always, thanks for reading, 

—Kyle

Song 

Spotless - Zach Bryan (feat. The Lumineers): This is one of those sit around the fire and feel it songs. Hit me in the moment.